This goes back to the understanding that the greatest forgiveness is unconditional forgiveness. The book, Greatest Forgiveness, is very powerful. It says: “What is Greatest Forgiveness? It is unconditional forgiveness. Unconditional forgiveness is to forgive completely, without any conditions or expectations. It is to let go totally of any upset, anger, vengefulness, victimisation, sense of injustice, anxiety, fear, and more. It can be very hard for people to offer unconditional forgiveness.”
When we are playing the role of a judge and deciding what is forgivable and what is not forgivable, we are actually in a role we are not meant to be in. If you believe in past lives and the law of cause and effect, then what is happening in our lives is related to our soul journey. In quantum physics, we can only resonate and experience what we are already entangled with. Because of that, it is important to understand that whenever we resonate with something, there is something inside of us that is helping to attract it to us. With that understanding, it is important to know we are not the judges of what is forgivable or unforgivable. Our job is to let it go and forgive—easy to say but not so easy to do. But when we are judging, we are keeping score, saying what is right and wrong. In that consciousness, it is difficult to forgive.
Therefore, you have to go beyond the mind and into the heart and soul. You have to be willing to understand that yes, you don’t want to suffer, but you also don’t want others to suffer. To forgive others is to release yourself, because when you don’t forgive, you are holding on to bitterness, anger, and revenge. There is ancient saying: He who would seek revenge should first dig two graves. By not forgiving, you are hurting and harming your own self. Best is just to be able to forgive and to let it all go. Easier said than done, but chanting of sacred mantras and chanting different aspects of positive messages will help wash away your negativity. In time, by doing spiritual practice and washing away your negative blockages, one day you will open your heart more and be able to truly forgive more deeply.